Letters

To all members of the Campus Community:

DO YOU PLAN ON HAVING SEX WHILE YOU'RE IN COLLEGE?
Whether you do or if you don't-man or woman-you are not immune to the possibility of acquaintance rape. Being at UB means being part of a community and respecting the rights of others. Make no mistake about it-acquaintance rape is an act of violence and an infringement upon the rights of others.

WAYS TO PREVENT ACQUAINTANCE RAPE

Men
Understand that forced sex is not acceptable and that rape is a felony.

Stop if your partner says "NO," is reluctant, or is not clearly consenting. Do not take silence as consent. If you feel you are getting a double message, speak up and ask for clarification.

Respect the word "NO." When a woman says "no," believe her.

Do not assume that a woman wants to have sex because she drinks heavily, dresses in a particular manner, or agrees to go to your room. Do not assume that if a woman agrees to kissing or other sexual intimacies that she is willing to have sexual intercourse.

Never have sex with anyone who is drunk or passed out.

Women
Communicate your sexual desires and limits clearly. What you say and how you behave may create conflicting messages. Do not give mixed messages.

Learn to be assertive, to express your feelings, and to say "NO." Forget about being "nice" if you feel threatened. You have the right to protect yourself.

Exercise caution while dating. Have initial dates in public places. Let someone know where you are going and when you will return. Try to provide your own transportation.

Trust your instincts. If you feel uncomfortable or feel you may be at risk, leave the situation immediately and go to a safe place.

Remember that leaving a party or other social event with someone you have just met can be dangerous.

Avoid anyone who puts you down, talks negatively about women, is physically violent, or does not respect you or your decisions.

If you feel your rights have been violated or you know you have been assaulted, go to someone who can give you emotional support. Public Safety (Extension 2222 on both campuses) employs officers specially trained to assist you; you may request a female officer, if you prefer. Call the Counseling Center, 645-2720, or Crisis Services Hotline, 834-3131, or ask Public Safety or a faculty or staff member to put you in contact with a counselor.

Remember that acquaintance rape is never the victim's fault.

Yours truly,

The Staff of the Counseling Center

Counselors available to deal with grief issues

Counselors available to deal with grief issues
TO THE EDITOR:

We are all saddened by the death of student Troy Angelini. Dealing with grief often is a difficult, upsetting process. Students who would like to talk over their thoughts and feelings about Troy's death are encouraged to phone the Counseling Center at 645-2720.

Counselors will be available to assist in working through this sad human experience. Counselors will be available at the Counseling Center on weekdays from 8:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. in 120 Richmond Quad.

Yours truly,

Counseling Center Staff